What's The Need?

We were talking about boundaries.
Boundaries within our families.
Boundaries at work.

When is it 'appropriate' to set a boundary?
When is it not?

Is it better to be direct?
Or indirect?

Does context matter?
Audience?

What if there is no 'right' way?
No 'right way', because 'right ways' are all about strategies.

I had lost the focus on the NEED.

If you know Non-Violent Communication, created by Marshall Rosenberg, you'll know that needs are the foundation to all of our interpersonal and intrapersonal relationships.

Everything else is a strategy.

As we talked, I couldn't get this idea out of my head.

What is the need?
Or better, what ARE the needs?

There are often more than one at play.

If you think of a current frustration (like the meeting a publically complained about last Friday), what are the needs lurking underneath?

Could it be that a different strategy could be used to meet that need?

A different Person?
A different Location?
A different Action?
A different Time?
A different Object?

Do you see the acronym?

PLATO.
If you're focused on something wrong with one of these, then your focus is on a strategy.

Look deeper to find the NEED.
The needs are abstract.

Use this little chart to help.

Originally posted on LinkedIn

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