We were talking about boundaries.
Boundaries within our families.
Boundaries at work.
When is it 'appropriate' to set a boundary?
When is it not?
Is it better to be direct?
Does context matter?
What if there is no 'right' way?
No 'right way', because 'right ways' are all about strategies.
I had lost the focus on the NEED.
If you know Non-Violent Communication, created by Marshall Rosenberg, you'll know that needs are the foundation to all of our interpersonal and intrapersonal relationships.
Everything else is a strategy.
As we talked, I couldn't get this idea out of my head.
What is the need?
Or better, what ARE the needs?
There are often more than one at play.
If you think of a current frustration (like the meeting a publically complained about last Friday), what are the needs lurking underneath?
Could it be that a different strategy could be used to meet that need?
A different Person?
A different Location?
A different Action?
A different Time?
A different Object?
Do you see the acronym?
If you're focused on something wrong with one of these, then your focus is on a strategy.
Look deeper to find the NEED.
The needs are abstract.
Use this little chart to help.
Originally posted on LinkedIn
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I am Theresa Destrebecq.