WHAT I'M READING WEDNESDAY : "The Let Them Theory" by Mel Robbins

Another simple idea that's hard to follow. (Much like her 5 Second Rule.)

Here's what the book is about : LET ADULTS DO WHATEVER THEY DO.

A simple concept, yet one that means that we need to let go of our desire to feel safe through our control of other people.

One of the things that struck me from the book is the idea that our desire to control others isn't really about them at all, but about us.

As a member of the "sandwich generation," this idea of letting go is extremely relevant as I am still raising school-aged children, while also watching the health of my parents decline.

I want to protect my children from the hardships and judgment that comes in middle and high school, and support them to be "good" adults.

Earlier today, my daughter was practicing a presentation for tomorrow, and as I started to give her feedback, my husband whispered, "Let her."

I also want parents to be around longer, which means potentially giving all sorts of health and wellness advice.

Over the summer I watched my 2 sister's giving my mother some health and wellness advice and my mom said point-blank, "The more you push, the more I will resist."

Our control gets us nowhere and strains the relationship as both parties dig in further.

Instead, LET THEM.

And I can't forget the second part -- LET ME.

The book is full of vulnerable stories from Mel Robbins herself, as well as shared stories from readers and her community members, which I think is what I most appreciated from the book. It made me feel "normal."

It's repetitive, and the concept is quite simple, but it's a book where I will return to certain chapters when I need a reminder.

Originally posted on LinkedIn with comments.
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