If you were to look at the people that you most interact with at work, what would you see? Do you know their political beliefs?
Yesterday, I was working with 2 different groups of leaders around the ideas in the book The Leaders Guide to Unconscious Bias"
One of the exercises that the author encourages the reader to do, is to analyze their 'trust network,' to bring about awareness of who they interact with most, how diverse that group is, and how much their trust network is challenging or supporting their unconscious biases.
Many, many years ago, when I was a budding leader and classroom teacher, I was the department head of the special education program at our school.
It consisted of 6 special education teachers, and hundreds of special education students.
Part of my duties as the head of the department was the scheduling, and ensuring that each special education student had their needs met as per their Individual Education Program.
Today, there are millions of people huddled in basements, waiting for peace, so that they can finally come out to safety.
Today, there are millions of people huddled within themselves, waiting for peace, so that they can finally feel psychologically safe.
It all comes down to fear.
Later today I will be meeting with a group if leaders from around the world for our second session exploring the work of 📚 Michael Bungay Stanier in his book The Advice Trap.
As I was preparing for our session, I came across this quote from Simon Sinek:
When we are closed to ideas, what we hear is criticism. When we are open to criticism, what we get is advice.
If the data around our emotional literacy is true, most of us can only name 7 emotions, and for some of us it's only 3-4.
I find that both depressing and scary.
I grew up in a family where we didn't talk about our emotions, much less show them. I was often told I was "too sensitive."
What we don't realize is that not talking about emotions doesn't mean we don't have them. Not talking about them doesn't make them go away.
Yesterday, my daughter was taking forever to get ready for school.
This was wrong.
That was wrong.
She didn't like the toothpaste.
She didn't want to carpool.
Her backpack was too heavy.
Sometimes her excuses are valid.
Most times they are not.
She is often hiding something underneath.
Some worry or stress is waiting to come out.
Waiting to be acknowledged.
For the past few months, I have been sitting in circle with a group of women from around Europe, as we have looked closer at our sense of belonging through the lens of the book Belonging: Remembering Ourselves Home by Toka-Pa Turner.
What's great about this group is that I am NOT the facilitator, or at least not every session.
In order to have a true sense of reciprocity and to honor the leadership within each one of us, we rotate who facilitates.
According to 📚 Michael Bungay Stanier we all have an advice monster whether we like it or not. Unfortunately, often times our advice doesn't work for 2 reasons.
Reason #1: We are solving the wrong problem. Sometimes the people we connect with don't even know the real problem, so by jumping in too soon without knowing the depth of the situation, we can send people off in the wrong direction.
Reason #2: We are proposing a bad solution. With only a slice of the full picture, and our own baggage and assumptions, our solution and advice might not fit.
Back in 2014, NPR did a study of 350 differences commencement speeches looking for the themes among them, which they then ranked.
The rankings are:
1) Change the World
2) Listen to Your Inner Voice
3) Don't Give Up
4) Work Hard
5) Embrace Failure
Pretty standard right?
I had the pleasure (not) of studying Latin for 7 years as a young adult because my mother was convinced it would help me with my university entrance tests.
I am not sure how much it helped with my exams, but it definitely helped a lot when learning other languages.
LECTIO = READING
DIVINA = DIVINE (that's not so hard)
So what is DIVINE READING?
I am Theresa Destrebecq (I dare you to try to pronounce it...)