It's Intentionally Slow.

Feedback is important, but not all feedback is important for you.

Yesterday, I got feedback from a book circle that I led with a group of leaders from September through December.

Some of the feedback was about me, and some of it was about the process (which, is also, indirectly, about me.)

One person replied that the process was too long and wanted to have fewer sessions, over a shorter period of time.

It's a totally understandable comment. We live in a fast-paced world, and these are busy leaders, who have other things to do than work through the ideas of a book with other busy leaders.

Yet, it's not feedback that I will act on.

Behavior change doesn't happen quickly. You can't go to the gym a few times and completely transform your body. You can't cut down on your carbs, or fat, or sugar, for a week (or even years), and eradicate your diabetes. (Trust me, I've tried, and I'm still diabetic.)

Similarly, you can't go to 6 book circle sessions, and completely change your leadership (or whatever else you're trying to change.)

Change comes in small moments, in incremental ways.

Last week, I spent 2 intense days getting trained in Lewis Deep Democracy, and came home to the same patterns and mostly the same behaviors.

Training doesn't change you. You change yourself through repeated intentional behaviors.

To whomever provided this feedback -- I get it, yet I won't comply.

It's intentionally slow and repeated so it has long term value for you and the others.

Originally posted on LinkedIn with comments.

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